“Whyyyy is the water still on???!” I yelled for the 4th time.
I hear giggling and splashing, whispers and shrieks.
Sighing, I close my computer that is playing The Crown, and storm down the hallway where I’m preparing to yell at them, again.
When I reach the doorway, I can’t help but smile.
Dirty, hobbit feet. Splatters all over the mirror. Tip toes. A towel attempting to mop up some of the water. Messy hair. A child precariously teetering on the edge of the sink so she won’t spit on the counter, again. Lots of giggles. Proud smiles.
Our job as parents is to teach our children how to be independent, responsible human beings, is it not? We didn’t get to where we are today without our own mistakes and messes.
Why do we get so angry when our children make mistakes and messes? Why do we expect our children to behave perfectly when we still can’t?
That’s literally how they’re going to grow into those independent, responsible adults.
Why is so much pressure put on children?
Is it so hard for us adults to remember how much fun it is to create an ocean full of dangerous sea creatures in our bathroom sink?
Is it so hard to remember how good it feels to squish mud between our toes?
Is it so hard to remember how good it feels to do something right and receive praise and excitement?
I think sometimes, it’s important to stop thinking like an adult that just wants a spotless house and children in bed promptly at 8 o’clock.
Sometimes, it’s important to put ourselves in their shoes.... or, dirty hobbit feet 😉 , and appreciate the adventures they have in that tiny bathroom.
Water can be dried up. Mirrors can be washed. Trash cans can be emptied. Bodies can be bathed.
Childhood cannot be returned to. It only happens once. What memories are you going to give your children? Adventures in the bathroom, or yelling because they’re too noisy and messy?
This is a reminder for myself, to remember to stop demanding perfection and start appreciating these moments when they’re all getting along and enjoying what has been a difficult life so far. They have their whole lives to learn how to brush their teeth in two minutes without splashing water all over the bathroom. I need to just let them be little.
(Disclaimer: obviously routines and boundaries must be put in place as well. The occasional splashing in the bathroom is ok. This is not a nightly occurrence 😉)
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