I see you, exhausted mama with multiple littles. You’re not alone. I know the thoughts that quietly but repeatedly run through your head.
You’re wondering if you’re ever going to sleep more than 3 hours a night again.
You’re wondering if your kids will ever stop screaming about every little thing.
You’re wondering if you’ll ever use the bathroom without a child on your boob or clawing at your leg.
You’re wondering how your significant other is able to fall asleep the second their head hits the pillow, while it takes you at least an hour.
You’re wondering what it’ll be like to never change a poopy diaper again.
You’re wondering if it’s normal to feel utterly alone in a house full of people.
You’re wondering how long it’s been since you washed your hair or changed your clothes.
You’re wondering if you should take up celibacy because your body can’t possibly handle one more pregnancy.
You’re wondering how much messier your house can get before you finally snap.
I also know how frustrating it is to hear well-meaning one-liners from sympathetic people.
“Enjoy it while it lasts.”
“Let them be little.”
“They’re only little for so long.”
“You’re gonna miss this.” (The worst?!)
“Offer it up.”
“It’ll get easier.” (Hm, maybe THIS is the worst)
Let me tell you, as a single mother to three children that are less than 3 years apart, I hear you. I have lived it. I’m still living it, in a way, though I’m not changing poopy diapers anymore and I don’t have a significant other that falls asleep before I can even say “good night.”
Life WILL get less chaotic. It won’t get EASIER, but it will get calmer.
The screaming will slow down.
The loneliness will subside.
The children will start sleeping in longer increments.
You will be able to use the bathroom alone again (pro tip: buy a gate for the bathroom door so they can still see you but not touch you 😉)
Showers will become a daily occurrence again.
You’ll be able to eat a full meal without getting up 15 times to help someone with something.
Your children will start to entertain themselves AND get along. (I know, it sounds impossible right now, doesn’t it?)
The house won’t always look like it was hit by an F5 tornado.
You will look over one day from the book you’re finally tackling after 3 years on your nightstand, to see children giggling and playing nicely, in a mostly-clean room, and you’ll realize, “We’re finally thriving, not just barely surviving. Life is good.”
You’re not alone. And you will get through this. You won’t be stuck in survival mode forever. This is just a season, and seasons change, and each season is beautiful in its own way.
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* Single, divorced mama to three super awesome kiddos.